1. Think over what you want and why you want it.
Take time to weigh your feelings and the reasons for your decision.
2.
Before you decide to have "the talk," you need to let your partner know
what's bothering you and give them the opportunity to make changes for
the better. If you eventually decide to end the relationship, it wont be
too sharp because you've already voiced your frustration, and you'll
have given your partner the opportunity to change for the better.
WARNING: Skip this step and move straight to breaking up, If your partner has cheated on you or physically abused you.
3. Give your partner a specific time to change.
If
you want your partner to stop hanging out with friends instead of
spending time with you, set a limit on it. If your partner does it again
in a week or two, you can break up.
4.
Think about what you will say. You need to decide when, where, and how
long the conversation will take place. Remember to give the conversation
a time limit, because the conversation can last a lot longer than it
should, especially if your partner is surprised or shocked by your
decision and tries to keep you talking, hoping to change your mind.
5. Choose a suitable location to have the talk.
A
breakup conversation should be done in private to avoid embarrassing
shows of emotion in front of others. Pick a place you'll be able to
leave easily, like your partner's place, instead of your own. That way,
you can be the one to decide when to leave. If your partner is the
violent type, then you need to break up in public or bring back-up.
6. Don't blame yourself.
Always
bear in mind that breakups are normal. Sometimes you'll be the one to
dump someone and sometimes you might be the dumped, but we all
experience heartbreak. It hurts, but we all survive it, and you and your
ex will too. So, don't blame yourself.
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